No, not that one.
The other one: the Mormon Mom Club.
Summer in Utah, for me, is a funny thing. I’m an East Coast girl; I spent my summers at my grandparent’s beach house and spent my teenage years living at a house on a Tennessee lake. In Utah, there isn’t as much as a thunderstorm to be had in the way of water. And, I like a big old loud storm where it feels like the roof could get carried off at any moment. Not here. It’s as dry as a bone, and its just not natural to have chapped lips and rough hands in July, people.
Out here in the land of suburbia, where summer is marked by trips to the pool, the library, and Costco, the differences between me and the local culture just seem that more apparent.
I, for one, do not take my kids to their swimming lessons wearing jeans and a three quarter length sleeved shirt. Your apt to see me (HORRORS!) in my bathing suit sitting under the pavilion waiting on my turn to swim. If you run into me at Target, I could be wearing shorts that fall way above my knee…cause for scandal, I know. In the wintertime, when everyone blends together in their ski jackets and boots, doors are held open and smiles at my children are a little more forthcoming.
I saw a middle aged lady yesterday wearing an Aerosmith tank top and I gave her a huge smile because I know she knows what its like.
Its fairly easy to laugh off the women at the pool. They’re busy chasing around their six kids at the pool while wearing long pants in 100 degree heat.
We have a neighbor two doors up that I refer to as the Mean Mormon Man as he will not wave nor otherwise acknowledge our presence if he happens by our house. At first, I used to wave at him as he rolled by in his BMW. Nothing, not a turn of the head, not an accidental wave of the hand. From what I heard from our fellow Catholic heathen next door neighbors shortly after moving in, he will not talk to you especially if you’re female unless you are LDS. And that has proven to be true.
Being a firm believer that kids should be outside, we are often out in the afternoons playing sidewalk chalk or some other equally messy thing. While the nice Mormon Moms are probably reading scripture aloud to their children while they snack on some home baked product, I’m letting my kids throw water balloons at each other and eat goldfish. Sometimes with an Adult Beverage in hand. Me, not them. I haven’t let my kids start drinking yet- although in their minds, letting my three year old sip beer is probably just around the corner.
And, that guy will just walk past the house side stepping any kid toys that may be in the way and stare straight ahead. So as not to catch any drunken Catholic cooties. That really pisses me off. I’m thinking of having some nice Catholic literature sent to his house.
So, while winter is pretty tolerable here in the city that Brigham Young built, I’d stay away in the summer unless you have a thick skin and plenty of Chap-Stick.
July 10, 2008 at 3:53 pm
We have a guy down the street who looks exactly like Sam Elliot, mustache and all, and he has barely glanced in my direction since we moved here like 10 years ago. I got used to sticking my tongue out at him behind his back, then one day when I was about 6 months pregnant I saw him at the mailbox and he *gasp* spoke to me. Asked me how my day was, when was the baby due, how my husband was, the whole nine. It was so bizarre.
Even more bizarre? He’s never spoken to me again since. He’s passed us on the sidewalk when I’ve been out with the Bean, and… nothing. Not even a nod of the head.
All I can figure is for some reason that day he thought I was somebody else.
I’m not really sure what the point of that story was except for the whole weird neighbors thing. I think I’m losing it a little.
July 10, 2008 at 4:15 pm
Seriously. I am not suggesting that we all get together for a quilting bee. Is it just so hard to f—ing smile?
In the South when you move in, someone brings you a cake, asks you where your family’s from, and offers to “keep” your kids for the afternoon so you can go get your hair done.
July 10, 2008 at 10:24 pm
Dude, I’m in texas! It’s not always true! There are assholes here too!
July 11, 2008 at 7:23 am
I know. It just makes me feel better to think that when I’m out here feeling like a stranger in a strange world. And, Utah is a strange world, for sure.
July 12, 2008 at 6:12 am
What is it with the Mormon presence in the Mommy Blogosphere? Have you noticed it? Just wondering.
My almost three-year-old asked for a “beerd” the other day when a friend was getting them for the adults. I don’t think your nasty neighbor would approve. Seriously, do you think the LDS church would condone sheer nastiness? Somehow I doubt it.
July 12, 2008 at 6:57 am
Advice that my mother gave me that I wish I had taken: speak to everyone whether you know them or not. It makes you look good.
If you do not speak to your nasty neighbor just because he doesn’t speak to you, you are letting him dictate the terms of your (non)relationship. Say hello to him (even if you have a beverage in hand)– it puts him on the spot.
I think Julia Sugarbaker would approve.
July 13, 2008 at 4:08 pm
BDM’s advice rings very true. It’s the same reason I always smile and wave, or give the thumbs-up sign to someone who just cut me off in traffic. I actually think it pisses them off more than the finger. And also it confuses them. Which in itself is funny.
July 13, 2008 at 8:09 pm
I should point out that we have some very nice Mormon neighbors as well. I have absolutely no problem with other people’s religious beliefs. My problem is when other people (in my case it happens to be Mormons) that do not respect that I am not one of them. The ladies at the playground that, upon hearing that my child attends Catholic school, abruptly end our chat. That kind of thing. The missionaries drive me a little crazy too and I am thinking of keeping a stash of Catholic lit around merely to hand to them when they come to the door.
As for BDM’s advice (BDM: Benevolent Dictator’s Mom), I agree. And, for the first year that we lived here, I continued to wave, smile, etc. Its the past two years where I just got beat down by continually being ignored. Maybe I will resurrect that approach. We’ll see.
August 12, 2008 at 9:58 am
Oh I don’t know how you’re doing it. I could never survive in a place like that with everyone all wrapped up so tight and conservative. Should I ever somehow find myself in the land of women who wear pants to the pool, I will search until I find you and I’ll bring over some bourbon.
August 12, 2008 at 10:33 am
Awesome. I usually reserve bourbon for University of Tennessee football games, but bring it on.
We can sit in the front yard and drink and watch the Mormons walk home from church while my children run around in their bathing suits. Its a Sunday afternoon ritual.
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